11 Dec Are you always in the weeds? Understanding your mindset is the key to stopping!
When communicating up the corporate ladder, the ability to curate information effectively is crucial. However, many people fall into the trap of oversharing details, driven by underlying psychological factors that can undermine their communication effectiveness.
One of the primary reasons people feel compelled to overshare is the desire to validate their worth. The mindset of proving you’ve done a lot of work often stems from a need for recognition and approval. By sharing every detail, individuals might hope to demonstrate their diligence, competence, and value to the organization. However, this approach can backfire, as it overwhelms the listener with information that dilutes the core message. Instead of being perceived as thorough, they risk being seen as unfocused or even insecure.
Another factor is the fear of being perceived as unprepared or uninformed. Some people equate brevity with a lack of knowledge, believing that by providing more details, they can protect themselves from scrutiny or criticism. This belief can stem from a lack of confidence or an overestimation of how much information others need to see them as credible. Yet, this attitude often leads to information overload, which can frustrate senior leaders who are pressed for time and need clear, concise insights to make informed decisions.
The inability to ruthlessly curate information may also be influenced by a perfectionist mindset. Perfectionists often struggle with the fear of leaving out something important, leading them to include excessive details “just in case.” This cautious approach, while well-intentioned, can hinder effective communication by cluttering the message with unnecessary information.
To overcome these inhibiting attitudes, it’s important to shift the focus from proving oneself to serving the needs of the listeners, “It’s not about YOU!” Recognize that clarity and relevance are valued far more than sheer volume of information. By distilling your message to its essential elements, you not only demonstrate respect for your listeners’ time but also convey confidence in your judgment and decision-making abilities.
26 Aug Pause and Consider Your Pauses
Pauses in conversations serve several important functions and are an integral part of effective communication. A pause can signal the end of one thought and the beginning of another; a break between two related thoughts can give the speaker a moment to gather their thoughts or indicate that the speaker is searching for the right words. Pauses can also convey the speaker’s emotions, such as hesitation, uncertainty, or discomfort.
In some cultures, long pauses are considered a sign of disrespect or disinterest; in others, they are seen as a sign of reflection or respect for the listener. For example, in some Asian cultures, pausing before answering a question is customary to show respect for the person who asked the question and to show that the speaker is considering their response carefully. SSee Talk is silver, silence is golden: A cross-cultural study on the usage of pauses in speech for more information.
Pauses can also be used strategically in conversation. For example, a speaker may pause to emphasize a point or create suspense. A well-timed pause can indicate the speaker’s confidence and control over the conversation. In contrast, an awkward or lengthy pause can signal nervousness, discomfort, confusion, loss of control, or a lack of preparation on the speaker’s part.
It is important to note that the length and timing of conversation pauses can vary depending on the speaker’s culture, language, and personality. Some speakers may naturally use longer pauses, while others may use shorter pauses. The context of the conversation may also determine the length or type of pauses used. The best way to determine the appropriate length and timing of pauses in conversation is to observe others and practice using pauses in your conversations. If you find yourself stepping on another’s words or vice versa, you may want to pay more attention to the length and timing of your pauses.
In conclusion, the importance of pauses in conversations cannot be overemphasized; pauses play a crucial role in effective communication and should not be underestimated. By understanding the various functions of pauses and practicing their use, we can improve our ability to communicate effectively and build stronger relationships with others.
13 Mar Advocating for Yourself
Speaking up on your own behalf should not feel uncomfortable or embarrassing. This 30-minute recorded lesson will focus on both the mindset and methods for advocating for yourself and your ideas.
Answering Challenging Questions on Your Feet
At work, questions are continuously being tossed out to us. At times,
- We don’t know the answer and feel like we should.
- We can’t answer the question.
- We don’t have a good answer.
- We know the question will cause conflict if we choose to answer it.
Persuasive Storytelling
Telling a story is a powerful way to win over the heart and mind of your listener whether you are presenting research/data, sharing your value proposition or selling a service or product. In this complimentary lesson we will review the best practices of when, where, why and how to use storytelling for persuasiveness.
Projecting Executive Presence Online
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Leading requires a lot of skill and effort. In today’s remote work environment, it requires even more. We know what is effective, required, and preferred in leaders who are leading remotely.This complimentary lesson provides a clear picture of the skills you need to be an effective leader in our remote business world.