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I’m always more interested in talking than he is

Welcome to the one way conversation club. Though plenty of men turn somersaults to get conversational action going with their mates, more often women end up exasperated with silent partners. It’s not that women bore men – watch a man salivate over her every syllable on a long-awaited first date. Rather, whereas women tend to need a daily dose of conversational closeness, men value just being together and doing things together, even mundane activities like

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Where Should I Look When I’m Speaking to a Group?

If you view the listeners as piranhas, you’ll grab any chance to avoid looking them in the eye.  Lisa, a friendly, charming woman who had just been elected president of a large national church group, was dreading her first talk to the state leaders in her organization.  She asked me if it was OK to aim her speech at the clock in the back of the church she’d be speaking in.  “Surely,” I suggested, “you

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The Best Choice

How many decisions do you make in a day?  Hundreds, maybe thousands, maybe many thousands…? Some of them are life critical.  Some of them are thoughtless. Yet, each one of them helps to determine who you are, what kind of a life you will have, and the impression you make on others. When it comes to the choices you make every day and the number of people who want to influence those choices, there is

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He/She Always Interrupts Me

Both sexes can perpetrate and suffer interruptions. Yet researchers in the art of communication have repeatedly found that from the age of three on, males tend to interrupt and females tend to pass the conversational ball. The right to interrupt or dominate a conversation often serves as an expression of superiority or status. Nevertheless, when women yield the floor to men, it is not so much a display of inferiority as an indication of the

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3 Ways to Handle Difficult Questions Confidently 

Why do people ask difficult questions?  They need the information  They want attention from the group  They want to look smart  They use the questions to influence and persuade  They want to intimidate  Because it’s culturally appropriate  They want to challenge the presenter  They want to make the presenter look unprepared/foolish/dumb  Questions are safer to ask than providing answers  They want to be disruptive  They want to change the subject  They want to give their

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