Author: Monica

25 Aug Perception is Reality…At Least for the Moment

[vc_row row_type="row" use_row_as_full_screen_section="no" type="full_width" angled_section="no" text_align="left" background_image_as_pattern="without_pattern" css_animation=""][vc_column][vc_column_text] I always remind my clients that “everything communicates”. How you appear in that moment, and sound in that moment to your listener, send a message about you. The ability to be natural, who you are, and authentic, this is most people’s goal. I believe a great way to reach that goal is to: strengthen your ability to control the impression you make on others.  Perception is reality…. At least for the moment you are communicating it. So the question is how does one control this in a world where so many things feel beyond our control? Get ready- because taking your communication effectiveness to its next level is a 3 Level process. Level one: Self-awareness. What is the current message you are sending? How are you projecting confidence and what may be taking away from that? Often my clients will say, “ I don’t like the sound of my voice” or “I never watch myself on video”. If you don't hear it or see it, how can you know what is working?  Level one for many is the hardest part. Be brave.  Try this: Turn your video on your phone and deliver a message to yourself, maybe it’s a quick business update or a voice message you’re about to leave. Watch it back. Grab a piece of paper and draw a line down the center.
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28 Mar Creating Muscle Memory

[vc_row css_animation="" row_type="row" use_row_as_full_screen_section="no" type="full_width" angled_section="no" text_align="left" background_image_as_pattern="without_pattern"][vc_column][vc_column_text]When I work with clients on strengthening their communication effectiveness, I’m often asked, “How can I make these new tools come more naturally?”I assure them that when they carve out time to practice they are creating 'muscle memory'. ...

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01 Mar Why Doesn’t Bill Belichick Smile?

[vc_row css_animation="" row_type="row" use_row_as_full_screen_section="no" type="full_width" angled_section="no" text_align="left" background_image_as_pattern="without_pattern"][vc_column][vc_column_text]In his TED talk, The Hidden Power of Smiling, Ron Gutman provides some insights into the proven value of smiling.We are born smiling. Using 3D ultrasound, we can see developing babies smile in the womb. When born, they continue...

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19 Dec Are You a Fast Talker?

[vc_row css_animation="" row_type="row" use_row_as_full_screen_section="no" type="full_width" angled_section="no" text_align="left" background_image_as_pattern="without_pattern"][vc_column][vc_column_text]Have people ever said to you "Hey slow down, you talk too fast!” Wonder what they are referring to?  Being from the Northeast, we hear this comment quite often. When thinking about controlling your communication style, it’s helpful...

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07 Dec Everything Communicates!

[vc_row css_animation="" row_type="row" use_row_as_full_screen_section="no" type="full_width" angled_section="no" text_align="left" background_image_as_pattern="without_pattern"][vc_column][vc_column_text]As an Executive Communication Coach, my job is to remind clients that when presenting, everything communicates - how you look, how you sound and what you do with your body. Mary Lou Andre, a nationally recognized wardrobe, dress code...

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27 Oct Speak With Confidence and Remove All Doubt

[vc_row row_type="row" use_row_as_full_screen_section="no" type="full_width" angled_section="no" text_align="left" background_image_as_pattern="without_pattern" css_animation=""][vc_column][vc_column_text]In today’s fast-moving communication-driven world, messages are conveyed through many mediums. “Speaking with confidence” means avoiding tentative language. Non-concrete or tentative language in business shows a lack of self-confidence and will not deliver the strength of your intention to the listeners.For example:

Non-concrete – “I hope I’ve given you a good overview of our team.” Concrete – “This gives you a clear overview of our team.”

Non-concrete – “I guess I can deliver this talk confidently.” Concrete – “I can deliver this talk confidently.”

Watch out for these words in your opening thoughts and phrases, particularly when speaking: I think, I hope, I guess, maybe, kind of, and sort of.
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19 Jun What’s in it for listeners?

Prepare & Organize for Business Speaking       Tell the listeners why they should listen to you talk about this topic.  Whether or not they ultimately agree with you, how do you expect them to benefit by listening?  Some benefits that you might mention as reasons why...

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26 Jan Was The President Presidential?

By: Monica Murphy Senior Coaching PartnerAs Speech Communication Coaches, we are regularly sought out for our communication critique. We focus on the delivery style and techniques by speakers.The big question asked of us yesterday was , “Was Obama Presidential in his delivery of...

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